Self Love – Self ISH- Self LESS – can we send any more confusing beliefs into our childhood programming or what?
We were taught that self-love was selfish and even conceit!
We were also taught that prioritizing ourselves was selfish!
But could this be a programmed belief designed to disconnect us from our authentic selves.
🚨 The Truth is that Self-love and authenticity are inextricably linked.
What Does Self-Love Actually Mean?
✅ Honoring your own time, energy, and well-being.
✅ Saying “No” when something takes you out of alignment.
✅ Making choices that allow you to show up as your best self for others.
✅ Recognizing that being full of love for self and your own well being is not the same as being selfish.
Many successful and fulfilled people practice self-love daily.
They say, “No.” A lot!
Because they understand that if they deplete themselves for the sake of pleasing others, they won’t be able to show up fully their authentic self, they won’t have anything left to give.
The Problem With “Selfishness and Self-Less how we were hacked!
We were conditioned to believe that selflessness is noble, but what has it really done?
• It has taught us to ignore our needs.
• It has made us feel guilty for prioritizing our well-being.
• It has chipped away at our ability to be fully present, energized, and authentic.
🔹 Example: Someone asks you for a small favor, but doing it would completely stress you out on time and throw off your schedule.
If you say “No,” they call you selfish.
🔹 But is it selfish to honor your boundaries?
Or is it actually more generous to show up fully for the commitments you’ve already made?
This is where self-love comes in. It’s not about disregarding others—it’s about showing up as your best self for them AND for yourself.
Self-Love vs. Selfishness
💖 Self-Love = Honoring yourself so you can honor others fully.
❌ Selfishness = Disregarding others entirely for personal gain.
For example, your child needs you and wants you to be around but you prioritize going out with friends for drinks instead.
This is not self love, this is selfish because you are choosing personal indulgence over emotional needs of your child.
🔹 Self-love says: “I value my well-being so I can be present, giving, and aligned.”
🔹 Selfishness says: “I don’t care how my actions affect others.”
People confuse the two because they were taught to feel guilty for having boundaries. But boundaries are a form of love—for yourself AND for those who matter to you because you can show up more valuably YOU. Authentic!
Authenticity Thrives on Self-Love
When you practice self-love, you:
✔ Make choices that align with your true self instead of societal expectations.
✔ Show up more fully for the people who truly matter instead of spreading yourself thin.
✔ Give from a place of abundance rather than depletion.
🛑 If you’re constantly overextending yourself, saying “yes” out of guilt, or prioritizing everyone but yourself, you are NOT being authentic—you’re being programmed to betray yourself. I learned this recently because I was sick and it took me longer to get better because I was putting myself last! Talk about self sabotage!
Final Thought: Fill Your Own Cup First
Actually schedule this into your day!
Make time to recharge your energy, actually scheduling you on your calendar is an easy way to set your boundary.
Secret!! 🤫
Self Love is a FREQUENCY that attracts all of what you prefer! you becomee a powerfuk manifestor!
When you are authentic, you naturally attract healthy relationships, awesome opportunities, and joy filled meaningful experiences that align with your highest self.
Main point is that the world benefits when you are full, not when you are drained.
💡 Self-Love & Authenticity = Your Most Powerful State.
✨ So the next time someone calls you selfish for prioritizing yourself, ask: “Would you rather have my presence fully, or my exhaustion halfway?” ✨
😉 Love ya
Joanna Renner
#SelfLove #Authenticity #BoundariesAreLove #SelfWorth #EnergyMatters
